Anger – A poison that kills your soul 

Anger is described as having A strong feeling of annoyancedispleasure, or hostility in the Oxford dictionary. Psychologically, anger is a normal human emotion, and each one of us goes through this emotion every once in a while; in fact at times it is even healthy to get angry, as this shows that you as a person have a limit, a set of boundaries and rules that you don’t expect others to cross. 

But what about the times when anger is unhealthy? 

Unhealthy anger is anger when the emotion of anger is so strong that I clouds your judgement, when the feeling of anger overpowers every other feeling there is within you. 

We’ve heard many instances in life when a person is angry at someone, and they stay angry with them until God forbid something bad happens to that person or when that person dies. It is only after the going away of that person that the person who feels angry, thinks about his actions but by then it’s too late, and then a new emotion takes over; Regret. Both Anger and regret are the worst emotions of a persons life, and slowly they take over one’s life if not controlled. 

When is anger a problem? 
According to the Australian Psychology Society, anger becomes a problem when the following happens:
  • You feel angry a lot of the time.
  • People close to you are worried about your anger.
  • Anger is leading to problems with personal relationships and work.
  • You think you have to get angry to get what you want.
  • Anger seems to get bigger than the event that set it off.
  • Anger lasts for a long time, and well after the triggering event has passed.
  • Anger affects other situations not related to the original event.
  • You are becoming anxious or depressed about your anger.
  • You are using alcohol or other drugs to try to manage your anger.
  • You are getting angry with the people who are closest to you, or with people who are less powerful than you, rather than dealing with the situation that sparked off your anger in the first place. 
All the signs mentioned above are signs that show that one has an anger problem. People have become used to using anger to get what they want, sometimes they use it so much to the extent that their anger becomes bigger than the situation itself, and sometimes the same anger can cloud the love they have for someone else. At times when your anger is out of control, I advice that one takes deep breathes and just concentrates on the reasons how the opposite person has made them happy, and then while revisiting the old memories, one can calm down their anger. 
Another piece of advice is that one should never use anger as a means to emotionally blackmail another person into doing what they want, instead one should use the approach of talking, discussing and compromising. Especially when one is in a relationship, it is crucial that one doesn’t force their rules or opinions on their significant other, instead let them be the person they are because that was the person you fell in love with. 
When one is angry, one often exaggerates the situation and comes to the conclusion that everything and everyone is horrible and that this is the end of the world. When ones mind starts thinking like this, one should quickly tell oneself ‘It’s frustrating, and it’s understandable that I’m upset about it, but it’s not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it’.

Another way is to learn assertive skills, these skills ensure that anger is channelled and expressed in clear and respectful ways. Being assertive means being clear with others about what your needs and wants are, feeling okay about asking for them, but respecting the other person’s needs and concerns as well and being prepared to negotiate. Avoid using words like ‘never’ or ‘always’ (for example, ‘You’re always late!’), as these statements are usually inaccurate, make you feel as though your anger is justified, and don’t leave much possibility for the problem to be solved.

And lastly, don’t let your anger last long, and don’t dwell on a problem once you’ve solved it, by doing this, you’re saving that anger inside of you, and giving it the chance to rest it’s ugly head the next time you get angry. Once a problem is solved, be happy, smile and let go of all that negative energy; breathe deep and smile. 

Achievement – Google search

So I decided to just type ‘Analysis of nothing gold can stay’ in Google search, and I have to say I was pleasantly surprised! My post is the first on Google! Isn’t that awesome?!

Haha, okay, yes I do get a bit hyper on small things, but to me it’s still a big deal, and besides it is advised to find happiness in the small things, so I have to say I’m very happy 🙂 And I have to say that this wouldn’t have been possible without all you amazing bloggers out there! You have motivated me and helped me so much in this journey, so I’d just like to thank all of you and all the people who searched for the analysis of the poem and found mine to be helpful! Thank you so much!

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Abuse of English on the World Wide Web

ImageRecently I was going through a friend’s Instagram profile and I noticed this comment posted by a guy which read:

“YOu R vEry bEaUtIfUl’ Now anybody in their right state of mind, having a proper knowledge of English and having studied at least 1st grade would figure out that this form of English is completely appalling and unacceptable.

I just can’t stand people who use symbols like ‘@ng3l’ or ‘c00l’, I mean have we run out of letters? Or is it too mainstream to write in proper English?

Anytime I get a request from someone whose name goes like ‘D@rk @ng3l’ or ‘d@sh!ng pr!nc3~*’, I click decline and block, because I know it will be a complete waste of time to even try and converse with this person because all I will do is pick out every single one of their English mistakes and get frustrated, therefore it is better just not to add them.

Another thing that irritates me so much is when people substitute same sounding letters, i.e. ‘idyat’ instead of ‘idiot’, I mean it is going to take you the same amount of time to type it out, so why not type out the right thing? It’s understandable when you type ‘brb’ instead of ‘be right back’, but nowadays people have the tendency to shorten almost everything, even when its a matter of one letter!

Like last Friday at lunch my 5 year old cousin was messaging her brother and she asked what the spelling of ‘can’ was and somebody said ‘cn’; I mean she’s 5! If you tell her the wrong spelling in her early learning years, what do you think she is going to write in her school, ‘I cn sing’? Is that really what you want your kids to write in their exams? I think not! Then why don’t we all put some effort in firstly trying to use the RIGHT form of English, and secondly try NOT to make the next generation educated illiterates.

Thoery of Evolution: Factual or just a theory?

So recently I have been having a lot of discussions with my friends about religion and belief or lack of belief, and so I thought it would was time I did a post on why I feel religion makes more sense than atheism.

Atheists/Darwinists claim that there is no Creator, and everything evolved out of nothing, or inanimate matter.

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Just by reading this claim, a logical human being would deduce that it is not possible for living things to evolve from non-living matter, simply because of the fact that inanimate matter doesn’t possess the complex features and details that are present in living cells.

In order to prove this claim, American chemist Stanley Miller carried out an experiment in 1953 using gases that he claimed existed in the primitive atmosphere of the earth. He combined these gases and added energy to the mixture to create several amino acids present in the structure of proteins.

Although this did prove slightly the theory of evolution, only a few years later this experiment proved to be invalid, because the gases used by Miller were stated to have been completely different from the real conditions of the earth. After the revelation of this fact, Miller too confessed that the atmosphere he used was unrealistic.

Another reason why the theory of evolution is hooey is because even science today hasn’t been able to create even the simplest of cells by bringing together inanimate matter. The conditions that a cell requires to form are too great to be coincidences. The probability of an average protein made of 500 amino acids being formed coincidentally is 1 in 10950 and in math, a probability smaller than 1 over 1050 is deemed impossible.  Also, the DNA molecule that stores genetic information has data which is written down would fill a giant library consisting of 900 volumes of encyclopaedia of 500 pages each.

Another interesting fact is that DNA can only multiply with the presence of proteins, however for information to be present in the protein; DNA too has to be present. So this is kind of like the situation of whether the egg came first or the hen. It is highly impossible that both of these complex cells arose coincidentally at the same time in the same place, and it is also impossible for one to exist without the other, which concludes the fact that life couldn’t have originated by chemical means, and therefore had to be created by a higher Creator.

Additionally, another claim by Neo-Darwinists is that living organisms present at this time underwent mutations of sorts from their ancestors’ therefore leading them to create a new species. Yet, scientific facts themselves state that mutations do not cause living beings to develop, on the contrary, they always cause harm to them. This proves that a ‘destructive mechanism’ cannot by any chance be an ‘evolutionary mechanism’ therefore; a process called evolution could not have taken place.

An added evidence is that if a species went under some changes, then there should’ve been billions of fossils of creatures who were in the stages of transformation; i.e. some a half reptile half/half bird creature? But archaeological finding have never come across such fossils which proves that all these different creatures suddenly emerged fully formed without any changes in between, which again proves that they would have HAD to have been created.

It is also claimed that human beings evolved from apes. This is one of the funniest claims I’ve come across, because I refuse to believe that my ancestors were monkeys.

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Evolutionists have created a chain which goes as Australopithecus > Homo habilis > Homo erectus > Homo sapiens implying that each one is the ancestor of the other. However, paleoanthropologists have revealed that Australopithecus, Homo habilis, Homo erectus all lived at the same time in different parts of the world, which indicates the baselessness of their claim since there could’ve been no evolution process if all of them were present at the same time. Moreover, it has been found that Homo erectus have lived up until very recent times and no evolution has taken place among them.

These are only a few of the claims that I will refute in this post, but there are many such baseless claims which I hope to write about in future posts.

Sources:

The evolution misconception by Harun Yahya

http://people.chem.duke.edu/~jds/cruise_chem/Exobiology/miller.html

http://www.accordingtothescriptures.org/creation/fossilrecord1.html