I’m sure we all have heard the saying, ‘The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong‘ but even though we hear this many times, how many of us do actually believe in it and how many of us actually forgive people after hearing this?
Whether it be someone close to you, or someone you barely know, we often hold grudges against those people for a very long time. Sometimes we even forget that that person had hurt us until he/she comes in front of us and that’s when we remember that we are we don’t like them. If this is the case, then don’t you think that the mistake or wrong he did to you, was probably not so big that you can’t forgive him/her.
On the other hand, there are people who have hurt us so deeply, that we cant stand to hear their name, and as soon as they come in front of us, all we wanna do is hurt them. But is this right? Should we also hurt them just because they did? No! Ofcourse not! Because by doing so, you come down to their level and there will be no difference between you and that person. Instead of seeking revenge on them, we should forgive them. And we should forgive them not because we have to, but because we want to and because of the fact that by forgiving them, you are letting go of something that would have had a very negative impact on your psychological state.
Also, I’m sure that no matter how much we hate someone, we wouldn’t want that person burning in hell would we? So by forgiving them, you’ve done your part of saving them from that doom. Your forgiveness could decide whether the person goes to hell or Paradise. God, no matter how forgiving he is, he will not forgive a person until that person is forgiven by the person that he committed wrong against.
So start today! First forgive the small mistakes that people did, then slowly the big ones. Day in day out, forgive people and you will see how positively it will affect your life because now not only will you feel like a huge burden has been lifted off your shoulder but, because even God loves those who forgive, you’ll see that your life will improve in more ways than you could’ve imagined.
Many people are afraid to forgive because they feel they must remember the wrong or they will not learn from it. The opposite is true. Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Through the power and intelligence of the heart, the release of forgiveness brings expanded intelligence to work with the situation more effectively. — David McArthur & Bruce McArthur