Lost and broken
Like a sunken ship in the ocean
Hurt and damaged
Words left unspoken
So much to say
So much pain
Tear filled eyes
No hopes or dreams
Like a bird with a broken wing
Like a wish left hanging
I very rarely post about what’s going on in my life and that’s mainly because my life is pretty boring. But recently, things have got so much better; I have a job, I’m actually interested in what I’m studying, I have an idea of what I want to do and I have the worlds sweetest boyfriend Life is perfect. But I’m not going to take it for granted because I know nothing stays the same forever and I know problems are lurking around the corner. I’m not pessimistic, I’m just trying to tell myself not to take anything or anyone for granted. I’m going to enjoy every minute of happiness, so I can fight the problems with all my strength.
Problems are an inevitable part of our lives. There isn’t a single person on this planet that doesn’t have a problem. And the funny thing is, I’m okay with problems. Not in some twisted way, but in a way that if I didn’t have problems, I wouldn’t have appreciated my good times. That’s mainly the reason why God gives us problems, He doesn’t want you to forget Him. He doesn’t need us, but He knows that we need Him and He doesn’t want us to forget that. We wouldn’t have problems of we just thanked God for everything ok out life. Instead, because the human nature is selfish, we only tend to remember God when we have a problem. Wouldn’t you feel bad if your child only came to you when he needed something? Then what about our Creator? Isn’t He bigger than our parents? Doesn’t He deserve more love and respect than our parents?
This is a reminder firstly to myself and then to everybody else, because I’m not perfect and I do tend to do exactly what I say not to. So I’m going to make sure that from today I thank Allah for all that He has given me and ask Him to forgive me for all that I have done wrong knowingly and unknowingly.
May God bless us all and may He forgive us.
I want to share my deepest condolences for the victims of the Boston Marathon bombings. What happened was heinous and completely against the morals of humanity. Lets all have a moment of silence for all those who have suffered.
I would also like to remind you all to keep the people of Palestine, Syria, Iraq and Afghanistan in your prayers. Like the victims of Boston, there are people in these places who are dying everyday.
Lets pray for humanity, for peace, for equality, for empathy and for justice.
“Will it work?”, “So…long distance right?”, “It will be difficult”, these are some of the responses I get when I tell someone that I’m dating long distance, but my response to all of them is that if its meant to be, and both parties are willing to put effort and commitment, it will work out.
No doubt the relationship would need a little more effort than a regular relationship but they both mainly consist of a few necessary things.
Trust, I feel like this is the most important thing in a relationship after love. Specially in a long distance one, if trust is not there equally from both sides or if you think you can’t trust your girl or guy, my advice, don’t enter the relationship because it may not last. Its human tendency that when the person you love stays away from you, you may worry about what the person might do. But what you have to realize is that if that person did want to fool around, he/she wouldn’t be with you in a long distance in the first place. Also, in today’s day and age of technology, I think it’s important for couples to share their passwords with one another. This doesn’t necessarily show lack of trust, but it gives the opposite person a sense of security.
The second important thing is commitment. If you are just going to date someone for fun, I suggest you find someone near you to play. In a long distance, it is important that both parties have a solid commitment. No one wants to put so much effort in a relationship which at the end of the day would turn out to be a short term fling. So if you guys aren’t completely sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives with the person, don’t get into a long distance relationship.
Third comes effort. Long distance relationships require more effort than regular ones and you have to be ready to go the extra mile often. Yes, love does conquer all but if you don’t show your love, if you don’t put an effort to make the person feel loved, you might lose him/her. In a long distance, it is harder to maintain the same level of intimacy that can be kept in a normal relationship, but if maintained and kept, your connection will be stronger than those who are in a normal relationship.
It is natural to have physical attraction and in a long distance where you won’t get to see each other as often. But when you do, the physical attraction is so strong that sparks literally fly.
Another important aspect of any relationship is honest and open communication. You have to communicate with your partner and give him/her the chance to do so to. Communication doesn’t always mean to talk; listening also plays a huge part in it. You have to listen to what your partner has to say with an open mind and without any preconceived notions. Let him feel comfortable talking to you and in turn you should also be comfortable to talk to him/her.
It may be difficult, but in the end, if you really love the person, it will be well worth it.
I hope my post has given hope to the people in long distance relationships, especially since most people write about how these relationships fail. I wish good luck to all those couples out there in long distance relationships.
I'm moving on Leaving behind the pain and scars Making a fresh a new start Taking the reins Playing the games In this world of fame I will not forget my aims We might meet again But I won't be the same and you'll have lost your chance All your efforts will be in vain Because now I'm truly moving on
Haven’t we heard the saying practice what you preach far too many times in our lifetime? Yet, is it what we do? Do we actually do what we tell others to do? Most of us would answer No. So doesn’t that make us all hypocrites at some points in our lives?
Accept it or not, we all think we are better than the next person and we all believe that it gives us the right to correct or preach to other people. But what we don’t bother doing is correcting ourselves, we don’t bother looking in the mirror before unleashing our full fledged criticism on others.
How many times have you talked to someone and said, “oh, you know, so-and-so, she’s such a gossip or she’s such a miser” but have you considered that what you are doing right at that moment by telling another person about someone is also gossip? Have you considered how you would react if you lost a huge amount of your money? Wouldn’t you be a miser after that too?
So dear friends, a piece of advice firstly to myself and to all of you is to first make sure you are doing what you tell others to do and a better advice would be that if you have nothing good to say, then keep silent.
The mind is lost
The heart yearns for one
While the head for another
The truth is clear
One, a drug
The other a remedy
The choice is mine
Yet I can’t decide
Whether drug or remedy
Should be mine.